There is an exercise that I do with clients and my team where I give them the task of imagining that they have just been told they only have six months to live. I ask them to REALLY go to that place emotionally and then take 3-4 minutes to write down what they would do, who they would spend their time with, what they would want to experience if they had restrictions only time.
This is a VERY humbling thing to do, if you let yourself really go there you pour your heart out on that piece of paper, you get real and something pretty incredible happens. When I first did this I cried.
You finally figure out what is important to you, and what you want.
WHY does it take us an exercise like this to figure out what we want and what is important?
You put all of the low priority topics to the back and the high priority things come to the forefront because god damn it, you only have six months to get shit done!
I have this thing, well im going to call it a gift where when I watch something whether it be a TV series or a movie (mainly kids movies actually), I see a message in what I think it is trying to reach the people with.
At the moment I am watching a TV series called Chasing Life, where a young attractive woman at 24 is diagnosed with an aggressive cancer, and she starts to struggle with who, where and what she has chosen to spend her time doing. The things she has spent her life trying to achieve all of a sudden become insignificant and she meets other cancer patients who a lot of are terminal are actually living their lives, and each day to the fullest. She realised that maybe she hasn't been living at all, but yet working for other people who treat her like shit, putting other people's needs before her own, and not getting after opportunities and standing up to those who are her naysayers. She also comes to see that the things that ARE important to her have been there all the time she just hasnt been able to see it. There is one character in the show who is terminal with two months to live who is helping other terminal cancer patients live out their last wishes. One of these was a guy who brought up a a very valid point, he was disappointed that he wouldn't be able to attend his own funeral, where people would be celebrating HIS life, and he wouldn't get to see or be a part of it.
So they held a funeral for him before he passed away, that he could be a part of.
While this sounds very depressing, I can assure you it wasn't, while I was crying like a baby it made me have a few ah-ha moments.
What would I want people saying at my funeral?
What legacy would I be leaving behind?
Could I truly leave this earth knowing I had lived out what I was here to do?
Would I have people attend my funeral who I had really impacted?
Did I live an inspired life and help others do the same?
Did I choose to see the opportunities in every situation?
Did I choose to see that the life I was leading was amazing and true to what I wanted most?
What the answers to these questions above for YOU?
The second thing I realised is this, while we may be working in a job that we hate, or be dissatisfied with the money that we earn, or the fact that our partner isn't around as much that we would like.
Yes, you may be playing small.
BUT (and it is a big but) right NOW you have signs that you ARE living in the things that are most important to you. Your not handling them, or recognising them. The universe will only give you more when you are clear with what you want, and when you can handle what you have got. You want to play big, and have the opportunity to do the things you love MORE often, in a BIGGER way then get to figuring out what is important to you, top 3 - 5 things, see where you are living in those things, and get to creating a vision that is going to allow you to do that stuff more often.
I have an incredibly big vision that I often get too caught up in, and I forget to see that as of right now I am able to live in the things that are important to me.
My top three are
Family, understanding and travel.
Here is how I am able to live in these things EVERYDAY.
I am blessed to have created the opportunity to work from home, decide who I spend my time with in my business and do it everyday with my daughter Myka by my side and the never ending support of my husband. I spend my days coaching, moving, flooding my body with good wholefoods, creating content, writing, and empowering myself with education from some of the best in the world to get to understand the things I want to know the most to be able to give back to those around me, and I get to travel at least 6 times a year yes maybe that is just to Perth for some trips but it is still a trip where I get to have new experiences.
To be able to see that you ARE in fact living in the things that are most important to you in a small way, you have KNOW what they are! Don't go through life get to the end, then wish that you had lived. When really maybe you had been living but you hadn't realised it, because you were too caught up in the bullshit of what you perceive that you don't have.
Time to take a look outside of your little closed in box.
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